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Actions may speak louder than words, but words still matter \u2014 a lot<\/em>. People can get easily offended, and if you rush around like most folks, it’s easy to say the wrong thing in the wrong way.<\/p>\n

As a public speaking expert, one thing I focus on is teaching good speech manners. There are nine phrases in particular that instantly show appreciation and respect.<\/p>\n

If you use any of them every day, you have better etiquette skills than most people:<\/p>\n<\/div>\n

1. “What I’m hearing you say is …”<\/h2>\n
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People don’t expect you to agree with everything they say. But they do want to know they’ve been heard and understood.<\/p>\n

Use this phrase to clear your mind and confirm that you did consider their words before responding. If they spoke in a vague way the first time, you’ll give them a chance to focus their thoughts and contribute more meaningfully to the conversation.\u00a0<\/p>\n<\/div>\n

2. “You may be right.”<\/h2>\n
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This phrase helps pave the way for disagreement, as in: “You might be right, but let’s experiment with this new idea this time.”<\/p>\n

Don’t miss: <\/strong><\/em>If you use any of these 9 phrases every day, ‘you’re more emotionally resilient than most’<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n

It’s also helpful for responding to off-topic comments and remarks from hyperactive colleagues who talk too much. No one likes to be negated, and a simple affirmation allows conversations to proceed without disharmony.\u00a0<\/p>\n<\/div>\n

3. “You were right, I was wrong.”<\/h2>\n
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This phrase is a gold star of conversational selflessness for two reasons:<\/p>\n

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  1. It’s impossible to say these words unless you mean them.<\/li>\n
  2. They’re music to people’s ears. <\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

    It is a great tool for defusing tension, clearing the slate, and earning respect. Surrender your ego to win the bigger fight for more productive, authentic relationships.<\/p>\n<\/div>\n

    4. “Thank you for doing this …”\u00a0\u00a0<\/h2>\n
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    Old-school, elegant and simple. In a world where gratitude, respect and acknowledgement are hard to come by, it pays to be generous with praise.<\/p>\n

    If you want to encourage good behavior, force yourself to acknowledge it when you see it.<\/p>\n<\/div>\n

    5. “I’ll leave you to it.”<\/h2>\n
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    Sometimes the hardest and most helpful thing you can do is overcome your impulse to control.<\/p>\n

    If someone is chopping carrots (rather than landing a plane), offer this simple gesture of trust \u2014 especially if your first thought is that you have a better technique. Say it like you mean it, and do it with a smile.<\/p>\n<\/div>\n

    6. “Can you help me with something?”<\/h2>\n
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    No one likes to be barked at or ordered around, but most of us enjoy being asked for help.<\/p>\n

    Note the difference between saying, “Take out the garbage,” versus, “Hey, I’m overwhelmed. Can I ask you to help me by taking out the garbage?”<\/p>\n<\/div>\n

    7. “Your [hair\/shirt\/tie, etc.] looks so nice today!”<\/h2>\n
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    Don’t lie, but do look for the good. People like compliments, even when they act like they don’t.<\/p>\n

    We’re all aging, we’re all stressed, we all worry that we forgot something about our appearance. It’s nice to hear that we did something right once in a while.<\/p>\n<\/div>\n

    8. “That’s interesting.”<\/h2>\n
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    Even the melodic, prosodic flow of these words demands a slow-down, a bow to the speaker of sorts, before the conversation continues. It’s an acknowledgement that something was said, heard and considered.<\/p>\n<\/div>\n

    9. Say nothing at all.<\/h2>\n
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    When someone says something rude or ignorant and you’re dying to lash back, remember the power of “I’m rubber and you’re glue.” Be rubber.\u00a0Take a deep breath.\u00a0Chalk the words up as somebody else’s issue and walk away.<\/p>\n

    John Bowe<\/strong><\/em>\u00a0is a speech trainer, award-winning journalist, and author of\u00a0<\/em>“I Have Something to Say: Mastering the Art of Public Speaking in an Age of Disconnection.” \u00a0<\/em>He\u00a0has contributed to The New Yorker, The New York Times Magazine, GQ, McSweeney’s, This American Life, and many others. Visit his website\u00a0<\/em>here<\/em>\u00a0and follow him on\u00a0<\/em>LinkedIn<\/em>.<\/em><\/p>\n

    Don’t miss:<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n

    Want to earn more and land your dream job?\u00a0<\/em>Join the free CNBC Make It: Your Money virtual event<\/strong><\/em>\u00a0on Oct. 17 at 1 p.m. ET to learn how to level up your interview and negotiating skills, build your ideal career, boost your income and grow your wealth.\u00a0<\/em>Register<\/em>\u00a0for free today.<\/em><\/p>\n<\/div>\n

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